24 - Make new friends! Always. Never be too shy to leave your pack and mingle with new people. Drake's 'No New Friends' mantra is
23 - Whatever you choose to do in life, stay consistent at it. New things and change is hard; staying the same and not growing is hard - choose your hard.
22 - Find a hobby, it's almost the only way to discover what love.
21- Grades matter but not too much. The people I know who got 2:2's are fine. The people I know who got 2:1's are fine. The people I know who got 1st's are fine - it's the ones who didn't have a plan who are not fine.
20 - Book a flight and discover somewhere new, preferably long haul journeys. Getting off the plane and having a culture shock is phenomenal. If you can't afford long haul journeys, there are lots of beautiful places to visit in Europe (assuming you're British).
16 - It's okay to fall in love and let someone love you back. Pain is painful but building barriers is painful too. People are always in your life for the right reason and during the right season and if they leave, you can almost guarantee they left with a lesson. I remember when my now boyfriend called me his girlfriend and I was so overwhelmed with the title and wanted the ground to swallow me up, we hadn't discussed or confirmed this step but I was so deluded I didn't see where our companionship was heading though I liked the idea of being with him - especially after being hurt by someone I was 'with' before him. But I just let go of that fear and it feels pretty... ok.
14 - I'm bubbly and playful - kinda like my friend's dog I met in LA and I pray I never change. (weird that i just compared myself to a dog but he's the most lovable, playful, fun and sweetest thing ever). But in all seriousness, I used to hate being called playful in college, and loud. I remember me and my best friend would sit on the phone and plan to be quiet the following week. (#LOSERS) Who plans ahead and tries to prepare themselves to be quiet? It's so ridiculous. 'It's all the shy and quiet girls the guys liked after all', right? Don't change for anyone. As I'm getting older I have calmed down of course, but my bubbly and outgoing personality is the reason I've bagged every job I've had. 'We just love your personality', 'You will bring so much energy to our team'.... BE YOU!
11 - Family is irreplaceable! I recently went to Los Angeles, met and stayed with my dad's brother (before I stayed with a friend) and do you know what? It was amazing! They fed me, took me everywhere I wanted to go and I even got birthday money (whoop whoop). There's nothing like family, no matter where they are across the globe - it's so important you value and reach out to family if you can.
10 - Learn new recipes, YouTube, Google, there's so much access to recipes. I'm focusing on dishes from my native country Nigeria this year.
7 - Want a job? Apply for it. Never question your worth but be wise enough about your skill set and abilities, you never know what you're capable of until you're thrown into the deep end. But as Richard Branson once said,
“If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later!”6 - Always aim to be valuable and irreplaceable... Bring something to the table no matter what job/career you're in. Even if you're working folding clothes and it's not where you want to be, start instilling these lessons now. Learn to be indispensable and have an unwavering work ethic.
5 - Calm down! Don't stress too much, most fun life experiences come from trying to figure it all out. Be proactive and enjoy the ride. Remember, you can't be faithful and fearful at the same time.
4 - Live within your means. Can't afford it? Don't get it yet, it'll feel much more of an achievement when you can afford to get it comfortably!
3 - Stop wallowing in your own self pity, your happiness is paramount but it's up to you, if you don't like something change it.
2 - Tell your parents you love them as much as you can. As you're getting older, you forget that they're getting older too.
1 - Learn to LOVE you and work to be the BEST version of you possible. Your relationship with yourself is the longest one you'll ever have.
Those were my top 25 lessons I've learnt in the past quarter century. Have any similar to mine? Or different? Tweet me: @Ramicoco!